August 20, 2014

BLOGGING: WHERE HAS THE FUN GONE?

Back in June 2013, after having been reading blogs for years, I decided that it was time to start one up myself and share my passion with fellow beauty and fashion lovers. The beauty and fashion blogging community was nothing like what I expected. There was me expecting it to be a calm, yet passionate, social media environment. Oh, Steph.

When I began blogging, I did it because I knew that there were people that got as excited as me when they stepped into Boots or Superdrug, people that would never buy a product without reading a good review or being recommended it by the likes of FleurDeForce or Zoella. Where has that gone? I find myself sitting to me laptop, so demotivated to write because I don't feel part of the community anymore. Who gives a monkeys about the community? Why do I care? It is my blog, isn't it?


With #bbloggers chats twice a week, #fblchat and others also, bloggers around the country chat and chat about things beauty and fashion related, often far beyond blogging and, you know what? At 8pm on a Sunday night, the last thing I think to do is get out my phone and join in on a chat when I could be sat up watching the F1 highlights or Countryfile with my family. On Wednesdays when I have dance do I want to be chatting on twitter? No. 

Yet doing these things and making yourself "an online presence" seems to be what you need to do to "be a good blogger". Constantly tweeting brands and other bloggers to get some recognition and sharing your links so that your bloglovin' likes go up and up and up. 

This isn't me at all saying that the twitter chats and link shares aren't a good thing; they connect bloggers and brands alike, allowing people to make friends with those they've never met but having umpteen amount of common interests with. Nevertheless, I feel that they've become something of a requirement to be a "good, dedicated blogger" - why is that? Someone once remarked that I was not invited to an event from blogging because "invites were sent when you were on a break, Steph". Wanna know where I was? My brother had spinal surgery and I took time away from university to be with him. I wasn't taking a "break", I just had better and more important things to do. Is that an issue?

Why can't blogging be about you? About how much time you want to spend on your blog, about products you like? I am dedicated to my blog. It's mine, I've worked hard on it and I'm proud of it but it's not my life. University, my family, my lovely Mathew, my friends and my future career are my life and my blog is a hobby amongst that. I love it and I may neglect it for 6 weeks but what's that got to do with you, or anyone? Blogging has become a matter of who does what/how much/when and what brands they have behind them, rather than good, honest writing about something a person is passionate about. 

It's easy to feel like an outsider in a community so huge, but how ridiculous is that? 

For now, I ask that we write for ourselves and remember that everyone in this community is equal, not less or more because of how much they write or the products they buy. Stop caring about your bloglovin' likes and number of twitter followers. Ask yourself if you're proud of your blog and go from there!

I'm sorry for the rant and negative post but this has been bugging me for quite some time and after seeing similar posts around and about, I wanted to share my thoughts and hopefully ease the mind of some of you that maybe feel the same.


Love, Steph xxxx 

18 comments:

  1. I feel the same. So many bloggers seem to thing there better than everyone else. I hope you brothers ok now. :)

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    1. That's good to hear! It can be so irritating at times - glad I'm not alone in feeling like it :) he is fine thank you! He is starting uni in September! :) xx

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  2. Absolutely love this post! I love blogging and everything that comes with it. To me it's just a hobby that I enjoy, but yet I sometimes feels like if I'm not constantly doing it I'm looked down on as a less worthy, or not as good blogger x

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    1. Hi Polly! Thank you - it can definitely become a bit of an arms race at times and that really shouldn't be the case! Think we all need to take a step back and remember that sometimes! xx

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  3. <3 Blogging is about showing your passion and sharing tips and info that you love to share. It's Not about how many followers you have and how many free products you have.
    Its great to see posts like this and seeing the girls who have been blogging as long as me notice the massive change in such a short space of time.
    we should get back to posting what we want when we want how we want.
    You shouldn't be made to feel bad if you need some space for a while all of us have things going on and we shouldn't be judged for it. I would much rather follow a true blogger with a real life than someone just in it to see what they can get out of it.
    Lovely post steph. You have always been one of my fav bloggers and this is one of the many reasons why !
    xxx

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    1. Aww Jodie this has made my day!! :) I definitely have noticed a change and am glad to see that others have too. I fully agree, a blog is your own and you should be able to use it and post as often as you like!

      Thank you so so much for commenting - you're so sweet! Can you believe it is a year since the SO Project? You were my first recruit haha! Lots of love! xxxx

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    2. Aww thats ok its a very good post and just wanted to share my opinion too.

      Wow I cant believe the So Project was a year ago ! I didn't think it was that long ago. I didn't know I was the first recruit haha thats brilliant :D I would love to do something like that again I really enjoyed it xxxxx

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  4. I completely agree with you!! I absolutely hate how there is an " expectation" for bloggers now to constantly be connecting with brands and other bloggers, and sometimes you feel left behind when you're the only one not doing that all the time. I have made a few friends through blogging and none of them were from those weekly chats on twitter, I mean they are good but let's be honest a lot of people only use the bbloggers to get their blogs " out there", so I think we'll just have to step back and just blog however we want to and try to forget about all the rules of being a "successful" blogger

    Yige || Yet Another Makeup Blog.

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    1. I completely agree Yige, sometimes I think that bloggers forget that we are all the same - it might be a select few but it happens and can sometimes make you feel uninvolved! I'm glad that you have felt the same as me! xxx

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  5. This is such a great post Steph. I don't really feel apart of the community, even though I tweet the links of posts, occasionally join in chats etc. but saying that, I do blog for me. I love writing about a new product that I adore or old favourites. xx

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    1. The community is sometimes a hard place to be and to stay involved with! Me too and I think some others need to remind themselves that that is okay! xxx

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  6. Hi Steph. I think the event comment may have something to do with me, and that's not how it was at all. The event 'invites' (an open call on twitter) were not even sent out. It wasn;t anythingt o do with you, your blogging or your presence, just all the places had gone by the time you saw the tweet - and for this I am sorry but there is nothing I could have done about it. I am so terribly sorry for your brother and I hope is ok? Family should ALWAYS come first before social media, blogging and anything else for that matter. And I am amazed at how well you coped, even taking time off from uni. But I never didn't include anyone because they were not an online presence, that's just not my style. I couldn't care less who does what or how many followers someone has when it comes to me planning any kind of event. I am so sorry if that's how you felt and would never have purposely made you, or anyone, feel like that.

    I also agree with your post, it's a shame that people have to be on social media promoting in every chat to get somewhere and be noticed, personally I think it should be for great content an posts like this.

    Also it was nice to see you pop up on my feed in Bloglovin, I do enjoy reading your posts :)

    Hayley x

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    1. Hey Hayley! I will admit that yes, it was when you were planning a bloggers event. I do think that everything to me was emphasised given what was going on at the time and I did feel a bit left out, but it's lovely to know that nothing was meant by it and i did in fact just miss the boat! My brother is okay now thank you, starting uni in September and fit as a fiddle! I think sometimes, particularly with the Leeds bloggers, it's easy to feel left out as so many of you are at completely different "life stages" to me (working and not being at uni!) and sometimes it does feel like you're all able to chat and meet up easily, whereas with not living in Leeds and travelling back and forth a lot I don't feel as able/involved. Given that, you're all so lovely when I see you that it shouldn't matter.

      I do agree in thinking that some bloggers forget that we are all in this primarily for the same reason and that's what I wanted to remind people of in writing this!

      Thank you for your comment and I enjoy reading your posts too! Wittering Wednesdays are a personal fave - we both enjoy a little moan obviously haha!

      I'm really sorry if I upset you by the post but thank you for commenting and letting me know your side! :)

      xx

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    2. WellI truly didn’t mean it like that; maybe I can take something from it though and learn how to be less curt sometimes 

      So glad to hear your brother is doing well and starting uni. And yes, I do agree with the life stages thing, as I might see bloggers more your age going out & what not then I am sat at home feeling all old haha. We have a bloggers dining club on the 1st Wednesday of each month if you ever fancy coming along. We go out for something to eat and then pop to a comedy night afterwards, so not an event as such just a way to try keep in touch.

      No you didn’t upset me at all hun, I just didn’t want you to think I had meant anything by it as I would hate for someone to feel left out of not included. Also there is a forum for Yorkshire blogggers (I don’t think it is as active as it should be though) yorkshireFBLbloggers.boards.net

      Enjoy Leeds fest this weekend too - so jealous

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  7. I totally get it! I always miss the Twitter chats and feel like I'm missing something, especially asince it means I've lost touch a bit with all my blogger friends! But blogging is for the blogger in my opinion, so know that the people who love reading your posts will always be there! Hope you're well good!

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  8. All so true, I sometimes feel like people blog for others instead of for themselves which is not the way it should be I think. If you love what you blog about then other people will like it too! x

    http://rawrbows.blogspot.com.es

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  9. I get what you're saying, I don't like how now there's coke bottles saying 'share a coke with #fashionblogger' or jumpers in Topshop with 'Fashion Blogger' slashed across the front because its like its because the norm to write a blog just like it is to use Instagram, Facebook and it is just turning into another social media site with people who really don't care about blogging and just do it for some attention and free clothing/products. Personally I do share my links over Twitter because I do want to go into PR and Marketing and I think blogging is something that will really help me with that and I love to get people's opinions on my blog and how I write and what they think of certain products etc, my blog increased my self esteem and I love to write it! I hate it when some people just write a blog every other week and just promotes companies they've been sponsored by!x
    Katherine Rosie | UK Beauty Blog

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  10. Jesus, you sound like you've wrapped up blogging in a nutshell! I'm fairly new to blogging and I'm still shaky on how you can direct people to your own blog. Any help would be hugely appreciated (particularly to avoid what you're saying happened). My latest piece is a university survival guide, aimed at prospective students and first years who aren't sure what to expect or how to prepare. It covers everything from saving money and surviving fresher's week, to exam stress relief and helpful student recipes. I've worked really hard on it but how do I direct people to it?
    Joe :)

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